How To Decide if Getting You Ex Back is worth it.
Lets be real. You really need to decide if getting your ex back is going to be worth it or not. This will take some effort and before you do, you must decide if she is worth the time. Here are 5 things to consider, with advice from my personal situation and what I’ve learned over time:
1. Can you picture your life in the future without her? This is a hard question to answer, because you never know what is to come. In my situation, I tried really hard to consider finding someone else, but the thought of her being away from me, not in my life was just a impossibility that I didn’t want to have to deal with.
2. Do you feel like she is something you need to conquer? I have dated a few women in my life (not too many, but a few good ones) but I knew this one was special. It’s weird to say that I wanted to “conquer” her, but there were definite times, especially right at the end when she would send MIXED SIGNALS that I just couldn’t understand. It was until my enlightenment that I began to understand the psychology behind the female mind. These mixed signals were something that I had to figure out, and I had to conquer her. I did it for myself, because I couldn’t let this part of my life pass me by with all these loose ends untied.
3. The world is made up of 6 billion people. Is she the one? There are tons of fish in the sea! But the fact that there is 6 billion people out there is a pretty big fallacy in terms of dating. Out of 6 billion people out there only half of them could be women. Of those 3 billion most of them live in countries I will never visit (and if I do, I most likely won’t even run into them). And out of the countries I do visit, they have to speak the same language. And of those people I have to actually meet them. And they have to be attractive. And they have to like me. And I have to have enough time to get to know them. And I have to have enough time to develop a relationship (you see how this takes a lot of coincidence??). I’m just saying, that of all the people I’ve met in my life, there have only been a few ’special’ people that I have considered good enough to be my girlfriend, and I have met a LOT of girls. This one was special, and I didn’t want to have to go searching for years, just so I could just find the same thing I’d already found in her.
4. Can you let her be? I tried really hard after our break up to just let her be. I thought she was saying that we just couldn’t be together anymore because she needed to live her life the way she wanted. But our relationship wasn’t about me, and it wasn’t about her. It was about us, and she couldn’t see that (neither could I at first). The relationship had it’s problems, yes, but we were both at fault. Mostly me. I was doing things to push her away and I almost lost it all trying to get her back before I learned the system. I realized that we were meant to be together, and it was entirely up to me to get us back the way we should be.
5. Did you really ever feel love? This may be on of the hardest of them all to answer. What is love? You have to define it for yourself, there is nothing that I could tell you that would be true for you. But I do know this: Love is something that you can feel, but more than that it is something you can give. I knew it when I started seeing myself do the little things for her, and actually enjoying it! I would clean her dishes for her (I hate dishes) and enjoy it just because I knew she’d be happy when she came back. While she was taking a shower, I’d bring the iPod dock to the bathroom and just start randomly playing her favorite love song. I’d give her massages. I’d drive all around town looking for her special ice cream. All because I knew it would make her happy. I became unselfish. And when I took a step back, I realized, that for all this, I loved her. I didn’t care about doing any of it, I did it all because it made her happy, which in turn made me happy. For me, that’s love and that’s how I decided I had to get my ex back.
There it is, 5 heavy hitters to consider. Getting your ex back is not for everyone. But for some people, there is no real choice. You have to put a plan in to action. You need the system. Good luck.
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