More breakups happen around the holidays than any other time of year.  Maybe it’s the cold weather, or the excitement of something new, new years resolution, or just brain shifting into change mode, but the holidays can bring about breakup faster than santa delivers presents around the world in one night.

If your girlfriend just broke up with you around the holidays, you can bet she probably made an emotional decision based on the pyscological changes associated with the time of year.  It’s also a really hard time to lose one because it’s so cold and there’s not as many hot chicks walking around that you can pick up.  It’s a time to hibernate, and believe me, hot girls hibernate.

So, you gotta get her back, cause lets face it, what sorry sucker wants to sit around the most joyus time of the year lonely?  It would be way harder to land another chick, especially this time of the year, when you could just get the one you had back.  You gotta pull back.  My number one tip?….

#1: Leave her alone.  It’s called “emotional clingyness.”  You need to give the impression that you are higher on the social scale than she is, even if she left you.  It may be very hard to do, you’ll have contradicting feelings, but you have to leave her alone.  Let her call you.  And when she does, don’t be all debby downer.  Have some shit happening in your life that you can tell her about when she asks what you’ve been up to.  It can be WHATEVER as long as it’s not moping around the house and thinking about her all day.

What does this do? It raises your social value and automatically makes her slightly more attracted to you.  Depending on the person this could make a big difference, but regardless this step is a CRUCIAL first in getting your ex back.

Want more tips? Keep reading the blog!

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There is a lot that I could teach you, but the one thing that may be the most important is that if you want something bad enough, you can get it.  But it has to start from inside of you with a burning desire.

What do you have a burning desire for? Answer your inside questions first. Be hard with yourself.  Be hard on yourself.  I have a lot of information on this website to help guide you as well as tools that have helped me before. But nothing can be achieved without defining what you want first.  Then its just up to you to take the actions necessary to make something happen.

So you’re taking a break?  This is a make-or-break period of time.  There was a reason for it, but you should know that most relationships that take a break are never the same after.  There are a few things you should consider / do on your break:

1. Go out and do stuff! Many times you come wrapped up in a relationship and get sucked into only hanging out with that person (it can very easily turn into this, and you don’t see it until the relationship stops and you’re like “damn, what should I do?”

2. Meet new people.  You always gotta keep you’re hustle on, why? Because she’s meeting new people too.  You don’t want her coming back like “Oh I just met this *Awesome* new guy at this bar who’s sooo funny* when you have nothing to say back.  ”Oh damn, I just met this new Xbox game… uh…” Yeah, her attraction just took a nose dive down Niagra Falls for you.  Get your act together and get your social on.

3. Have a purpose.  At some point you need to be the leader and lead the relationship.  When you are the man in the relationship, you show dominance and that is one of the attraction switches for women.  They want to be led around and told what to do.  If you think the relationship has gone past the point of break, or she’s already moving away from you, you need to take some quick action.  If you want her back, check out my guides section for a plan to get her back.

I’ll tell you why–because there are millions of girls out there.  Don’t believe me? Go out of your normal area, hit the beach, start making friends.  I guarantee you’ll start seeing out of the box.  Every once in a while, a special one comes around that you’re going to want to keep.  You gotta learn how to keep that girl under your wing and not leave.  I try and help people do exactly that.

(At times you let that one slip away.  DON’T LET THAT HAPPEN TO YOU!!! Learn how to keep her.