Kick Ass Relationship Guide

More breakups happen around the holidays than any other time of year.  Maybe it’s the cold weather, or the excitement of something new, new years resolution, or just brain shifting into change mode, but the holidays can bring about breakup faster than santa delivers presents around the world in one night.

If your girlfriend just broke up with you around the holidays, you can bet she probably made an emotional decision based on the pyscological changes associated with the time of year.  It’s also a really hard time to lose one because it’s so cold and there’s not as many hot chicks walking around that you can pick up.  It’s a time to hibernate, and believe me, hot girls hibernate.

So, you gotta get her back, cause lets face it, what sorry sucker wants to sit around the most joyus time of the year lonely?  It would be way harder to land another chick, especially this time of the year, when you could just get the one you had back.  You gotta pull back.  My number one tip?….

#1: Leave her alone.  It’s called “emotional clingyness.”  You need to give the impression that you are higher on the social scale than she is, even if she left you.  It may be very hard to do, you’ll have contradicting feelings, but you have to leave her alone.  Let her call you.  And when she does, don’t be all debby downer.  Have some shit happening in your life that you can tell her about when she asks what you’ve been up to.  It can be WHATEVER as long as it’s not moping around the house and thinking about her all day.

What does this do? It raises your social value and automatically makes her slightly more attracted to you.  Depending on the person this could make a big difference, but regardless this step is a CRUCIAL first in getting your ex back.

Want more tips? Keep reading the blog!

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So you’re taking a break?  This is a make-or-break period of time.  There was a reason for it, but you should know that most relationships that take a break are never the same after.  There are a few things you should consider / do on your break:

1. Go out and do stuff! Many times you come wrapped up in a relationship and get sucked into only hanging out with that person (it can very easily turn into this, and you don’t see it until the relationship stops and you’re like “damn, what should I do?”

2. Meet new people.  You always gotta keep you’re hustle on, why? Because she’s meeting new people too.  You don’t want her coming back like “Oh I just met this *Awesome* new guy at this bar who’s sooo funny* when you have nothing to say back.  ”Oh damn, I just met this new Xbox game… uh…” Yeah, her attraction just took a nose dive down Niagra Falls for you.  Get your act together and get your social on.

3. Have a purpose.  At some point you need to be the leader and lead the relationship.  When you are the man in the relationship, you show dominance and that is one of the attraction switches for women.  They want to be led around and told what to do.  If you think the relationship has gone past the point of break, or she’s already moving away from you, you need to take some quick action.  If you want her back, check out my guides section for a plan to get her back.

I’ll tell you why–because there are millions of girls out there.  Don’t believe me? Go out of your normal area, hit the beach, start making friends.  I guarantee you’ll start seeing out of the box.  Every once in a while, a special one comes around that you’re going to want to keep.  You gotta learn how to keep that girl under your wing and not leave.  I try and help people do exactly that.

(At times you let that one slip away.  DON’T LET THAT HAPPEN TO YOU!!! Learn how to keep her.

What girls like and what you should give them are two totally different things.  What girls really like are glittery gold, to be treated like a princess, romantic nights, nice clothes, expensive drinks.  Not every girl is like this (because sometimes you’ll meet that one that just likes to wear jeans, chill with the guys, hit up mcdonalds), but in the end, she’ll grow up and deep down she wants to be a woman with nice things.

But if you supplicated her and provided her with every wish, would you win? It’s a paradox.  You won’t win.  Everyone wants what they can’t have.  So what do you give them?

You give them exactly what you want them to have which is… whatever you want! If she deserves a nice dinner, give it to her! But only if she deserves it.  She treats you like shit?  Don’t buy her gifts! Don’t give her more attention than she deserves.

When you give her what she deserves, and give her only what you want, she will begin to be trained just like you want her to be.  And she will begin to accept what you give her as normal and not EXPECT to be taken out every night.  Once you get her where you want, you will be respected and in a much better position.  Don’t just give her what she wants, give her what you want to give her.