A hell of  a title, right? I grew up wondering this for so long, debating in my head over and over about it.  How could social interaction be so unfair? I was a really nice guy, lots of girls would like me and I would never treat them like the other assholes that I always heard about.

If these kinds of thoughts go through your mind, or have in the past, don’t feel bad.  Just realize that they are only slightly skewed. The reality of the situation is that girls don’t dislike nice guys, but they hate PUSSIES.  The term “nice guy” is usually used as a euphemism for an extremely timid, weak dude.

Girl’s don’t necessarily love assholes, but they do have to put up some kind of shield to all the weakness thats going around.  They want a MAN.  A man that can really stand up, get through anything, say what’s on his mind and not give a shit what anyone else thinks (and that can sometimes come across as being an asshole).  It’s not that they love assholes, but they do like guys who have ultimate confidence and do what they want when they want.  It’s like a breath of fresh air, a shock from the mundane social interactions that they have with 90% of guys.

So now that we’ve covered the distinction, what can you do about it? Accepting the distinction is half the battle.  Now what you can do is apply this idea in every social interaction and train yourself to be more confident.  You don’t have to put everyone down, act like a jerk, but if something sucks or some girl is a bitch, you can tell her, all in a ‘I don’t give a fuck’ manner.  You must do this carefully–you can’t actually be hurt by it, you must genuinely not care.  If you can pull off this attitude, you have immediately became more confident–and attractive.  Work on this, and you will start to see results.   Be careful at first since this will be a new attitude for you, but I promise over time this will increase your attractiveness 7 fold.

Flowers play a big part in a relationship especially in the beginning.  It is often understood that you have to give flowers to your special someone sometimes but what to give makes it very tricky. Flowers and colors stand for something and many a times, a girl often knows them all and may affect the relationship and closeness depending on the flower you gave and the color it has. However, giving of flowers often helps guys to express feelings that they cannot say, thus making the connection and the effort noticed.

If you think that she looks just amazing and gorgeous and you feel shy to say it out loud, say it with flowers. Women love getting flowers, even those who say they don’t. Start with simplicity. Primroses, daisies and amaryllis stands for beauty so let them know they are adored by giving them some. Gladioli stands for handsomeness and strength, so ladies do not think that you’re the only one in the relationship to receive flowers.

If, however, you are in a very new relationship and you’re still trying to move slowly, start with flowers that mean friendship like pink roses which connotes friends before going in to some serious emotions. Irises symbolize friendship that is cherished and periwinkles in a bouquet are also an equivalent to saying ‘thank you for this new friendship.’

If you’re in a relationship that is serious or has gone through many ups and downs and has gone stronger each time, you may want to declare your love and adoration to your partner with flowers as a sign of appreciation and love. Red tulips and roses symbolize love and for the hopelessly in love, there are yellow tulips. A bouquet of Phlox is a proposal of marriage and if you are really sly and off the tracks, a bunch of spider flowers symbolize ‘elope with me!’

The relationship and dating methods today are rapidly evolving. A lot of couples now have not seen each other for real life. They created and started relationships virtually, that is, they met, became friends and eventually began a relationship through the internet. Some people also share relationships apart and continue to strengthen the bond even apart with the means of being online.

Long distance relationships, no matter how it started, are a tough decision to make and a hard relationship to have. Having your loved one on the other side of the world or in another island, city or state is difficult. Distance can be overwhelming and the fact that they are away and actually meets other people makes you anxious. Those people who are in a long distance relationship must have a very strong bond established and a good sense of trust built for the relationship to work out. Without trust, the relationship crumbles even with just a few weeks of being apart.

You may not see the beauty of being in a long distance relationship if you have not been into one but being in it does have its perks. You get to have your own freedom and you may get to know how much you really love that person to commit to them even if they’re not with you. Simple things together are appreciated. When you are together always, eating out, sitting together on a bench or sand watching the sun go down are just some of the things that goes unnoticed. Couples in a long distance relationship notice everything and appreciates each other more knowing that they cannot do it in person yet.

When the right time comes that the couples personally meet, joy and overwhelming happiness as well as excitement and fun is felt and the bond grows stronger. Long distance relationship makes couples strong and other couples fall apart. But this only means that they are really not meant to be.

I always thought that love only happens and is exclusive only for couples. The relationship I have with my friends, family and relatives were not because of love, or so I thought. The word “love” nowadays has been so overused that a lot of people, especially the younger generations mistook it for just an easy thing with not much value. Have you ever wondered how much really the value of the word “love” is today? You may easily hear it from people from everyday walks of life saying, “oooooh, I so love these thing!” or “I love how you color your lips blue!” and so on. People keep saying love without really keeping tabs on its real value.

Love and like are two very different words. However, today, society has become so obsessed with Love that the words like and love can now be interchanged. People use the word love as a superlative for like most of the time. They tend to use love for things like, “I love your shirt” instead of just saying, “I really like your shirt.”

You see, love is deeper than just appreciation or strong adoration. Those are feelings. Love, is more – much more that just feelings. Love is not even an emotion because emotions vary from time to time. Even if you’re so angry or hurt with what your brother did to you that you may feel like murdering him, deep inside you still love him. Emotions change over time. Love does not unless you decided not to.

Love is a decision made consciously. When you love, you decide to make another one’s life a big part of you. That no matter what happens you still continue to love that person. Feelings and emotions may change but as long as you decide to love that person or persons with your heart, you stick to them.

So the next time, be careful of how to use love in what you say and just say when you really mean it.