I’ve been feeling pretty mixed lately, and sometimes when things are so hard on your mind, you just need to change it up and do something different. You need some clear perspective, so what do I do? Bring back some music, and I’d def recommend something that will pump you up, or at least brighten your spirits. Sometimes its the lyrics, sometimes its just the music, but music seems to just bring me up. Here’s a track for you for today:
Enjoy
I’ve been writing a lot lately about things NOT to do when trying to get your girlfriend back, but the truth is I want to give you the steps necessary to put a plan into action. The worst thing that you can do is do nothing. Just reading this blog isn’t going to get her back. Just searching the internet, or thinking about it, or complaining, or asking your friends (because they will all give you advice, just not good advice). Hence, here are 5 definitive action steps to get her back. This is what I did and it worked:
1. Decide that she’s worth it. I wrote a whole post about this, but you do need to first and foremost decide if you want her back. Sometimes going back isn’t always the best answer. But if she really meant something to you, and you feel inside that she is the one you want back, you have already completed your first step.
2. Stop Everything Your Doing. I wrote a post about this one as well–But the truth is that most guys do everything wrong to get her back, and actually do things that would hurt the chances of getting her back. Stop acting depressed, stop calling / texting her, stop ignoring her, stop trying to reason with her. This is a KEY element, you need to make a plan of exactly what to do.
3. Make a Plan. There is tons of advice out there, but most of it is crap. I hear advice all the time from everyone and when it really comes down to it, I always look up to people who have been there and done it, rather than those who think they know that like to TALK. My gift to you is that I have ALREADY been through it, failed many times, came back to do the research, and then really made a plan. The system that I used was called the Ex2 System and it made the most sense to me than anything else. Straight up, I’ve never bought anything like it from the internet, but I needed a plan because everything he describes is what I was doing wrong.
4. Put that Plan into Action. I decided to get it because I was tired of researching and asking people and I wanted all the info in one place so that I could get started. Time was wasting and I really, really, did care about her. I NEEDED to learn what I was doing wrong and the Ex2 System layed it out for me. I started my plan that night and everything that was said and described matched my situation and opened my eyes.
5. Get Her Back. Getting her back is surprisingly easier than I thought, but only after I knew all the secrets. I will tell you it was worth it. It worked for me. And it made all the difference. If you want her back for yourself, I personally, no bullshit, whole heartedly recommend the Ex2 system. Check it out and tell me what you think. I promise you’ll get yours back just like I did mine.
P.S. Worst Case Scenario: Try the system, and if you don’t get your ex back, just return it for a refund. They offer 100 percent money back guarantee, so it’s either get your ex back, or it’s free. For me, that was not too much to risk for something I wanted so bad. See for yourself, and as always, Good Luck!
Most guys do exactly the wrong things immediately when they break up with their girlfriend. Women are run by emotional triggers and the way you act and the way she perceives you are the main factors that will motivate if you have a chance or not. Interestingly enough, some of the ways guys will normally act (what is instinct to you) are actually really harmful and shatter any hope of you getting her back. That’s why I’m writing this to explain exactly what not to do… and if you are doing these things, stop!
5. Act Depressed
It is natural to feel depressed after the breakup (actually you probably feel awful) but you can’t let this show!!! Why? If you are really depressed, is that very attractive? If you were a girl, would you rather go out on the town with a new guy, or get back with your depressed old boyfriend? You see where this is going. Whatever you do, even if you have to fake it, don’t let her see you depressed!!
4. Avoid Her Totally
This is one way to deal with the situation, but I will tell you why this won’t work. She knows you are avoiding her, and she knows you well enough to know that you doing this because you broke up. Don’t avoid her because this is what all the other lame and pathetic guys did in the past as well. This is basically the same as acting depressed.
3. Reason with Her
You may have tried this, but you will realize soon enough that it just doesn’t work! There is a fundamental difference between guys and girls–Guys think RATIONALLY and girls think EMOTIONALLY. There is no way in the world you can reason her back into a relationship with you. In fact, it will turn her off because no matter what you say, you come across as needy. You need to play on her emotions in order to win her back.
2. Call Her or Text your Ex
What to say? We’ll until you learn exactly what to say (use my guides and recommendations) DON’T say anything at all unless she contacts you. You have to be non-needy because this is a very hard time. Needyness screams loser and will be very annoying to her. This will push her away and hurt any further chances.
1. Whatever you do, don’t do NOTHING!
There are many thing you shouldn’t do but one thing is for shure–You shouldn’t do nothing!! You have to make a decision for yourself, do I want to get back together with my ex? If so and you are ready, there is good news. You CAN get your ex back, but only with a plan. Most of my advice comes from my personal relationships, people that I’ve talked to (hundreds of other guys) and from the book that I used to guide me through getting my ex back, the Ex2 system. I couldn’t have done it without it. If you want to check it out, heres the link:
Good Luck!
So I’ve been hearing stories like this a lot lately. All of them differ in content, but the 2 same facts are
Very strange situation to be in, because any sort of communication seems really touchy. Nothing you say or do seems to work, and all of it just brings unsanswered questions. What should you do? What shouldn’t you do? How will she react if I do this or that, Who’s advice should I take, etc etc.
Stop!
First of all, you need to break down what’s actually happening. If you take a look at how relationships actually work, they are built on ATTRACTION. Your girlfriend went out with you in the first place because she was attracted to you. Probably somewhere along the way you probably let some of that initial spark fade. Remember when you were both really excited to be with each other? Remember when you were a little more of a mystery and she had to spend time with you to figure you out? But that may have faded as you both started hanging out all the time and getting into a routine (come over, eat some food, watch a movie, pass out, nothing new). Yeah it was nice, it felt good, but inside her mind–she may not even know it–she was getting bored. Her inner girl is screaming “AHH can’t we get somebody more FUN than this?” Have you ever heard the song “Girls Just Wanna Have Fun?” They weren’t joking. You had “comfort” but attraction faded.
Good thing is, you can spark attraction back up… Hell, you already have done it once! But you have to come at it from a new angle.